Help me

Help me – my relationship isn’t working!  I’m calling in reinforcements…

This is a contact list of where to go for some serious help for a broken relationship.  Some of this help is free, some of it costs money, but all that is cheaper than a divorce or lost relationship.

The pain of a lost relationship is hard to bear – for you, for her, for the kids, for everyone.  Most relationship issues can be sorted, but usually it’s can take a bit more than just “trying harder” or “wishful thinking”.

When things go really bad, it’s normal and common for men to shut down, put their head in the sand, and wish they were somewhere else.  We all know that’s not exactly a long-term solution, so here are some suggestions for where to go when it looks like ‘game over’.

Mensline

www.mensline.org.au   1300 78 99 78  (Available 24/7)
MensLine Australia is a professional telephone and online support, information and referral service, helping men to deal with relationship problems in a practical and effective way.

Relationships Australia

www.relationships.org.au   1300 364 277

Your local church

Most local churches have paid and volunteer staff who are happy to help in your time of need.  Usually, they will go out of their way to give you a helping hand when you need it.  Generally, their services are free.  Some people without a faith assume that churches only want to help those who share their faith, but that is usually not the case at all.  You can look up details for local churches in your Yellow Pages or on the Internet.

Marriage counseling

Marriage counselling will cost money, but it’s likely to be money well spent.  Marriage counsellors are usually highly trained and quite experienced.  Your relationship challenges may seem new and insurmountable to you, but most likely, a marriage counselor will have seen it all and heard it all before and can probably suggests strategies for you that have worked for other clients.  Look them up in your Yellow Pages or on the Internet.

Good friends

When you and your partner are really struggling, that’s the time to let people into your lives.  Most people have older, wiser friends who have been together a long time and survived the ups and downs of life.  You could phone them and just be real about what you are facing and book in a time to go and have a coffee or dinner with them as a couple.  They will be less experienced than a marriage counselor, but much cheaper and they will usually make time to you at short notice.  Make sure you choose a couple who has a great relationship.